A Little Heart Relief

I think I have mentioned here on the blog before, that Ceilidh is pretty adament about not wanting to get married or have children one day. I have to admit that it scares me immensely when we talk about this, b/c I instinctively start fretting that I am doing such a horrible job in her eyes that she never wants to be a wife and mother! ha Aren't all little girls suppose to dream of a handsome prince and beautiful children?! I know I was pretty girly; but I loved sports and getting dirty just as much as the next kid; and I don't think I ever NOT wanted to get married and have babies. I love exactly who she is, and will be fine with the choices she makes when it comes to marriage and family.... I just don't want her to be in therapy someday b/c of me! ha

This afternoon at lunch, my poor little heart got a little lift. Something came up about her getting married someday and the usual, "I'm not going to get married" was uttered. I told her that that was ok, but she just might change her mind. So then I asked Graeme if he wanted to get married someday, as he stuffed a way too big bite of PB&J into his mouth.

G: "Uh-huh."

Me: "Do you want to be a daddy too?"

G: "Uh-huh!"

Me: (Of course! Andrew is obviously excelling in his role so well that G-man can't wait. Ceilidh is screaming in the other direction b/c I am failing so miserably.)

While lost in my own self-pity, Ceilidh pipes up; "We sure will miss him!" Ok, bring on the tears! First of all, how sweet that she already realizes the value of Graeme being around. Secondly, I started to understand her determination to not marry a little more. She doesn't want to leave us! So after this, we had a discussion about how even when you get married and start your own family; we still can see each other and have a great relationship. By the end of the conversation, she was asking which house was closest to ours so she and her husband could live there. She also asked if we could still play princess games together. Yes Ceilidh, I will gladly play princess games with you for the rest of my life!

So obviously, her tune will probably change many times over the years to come and someday we will have to have the conversation about "leaving and cleaving," but maintaining healthy relationships. And counseling to stay mentally and emotionally healthy is always a good thing; so, she just might seek counseling (b/c of me, ha) someday. At least for now though, I will relish in the thought that she loves being apart of our family; and anticipate the years of princess games and the house next door!